Hi im Michael and im 18 years old. I am bi but I'm not open because I am not sure how my parents and friend would react..=S so I was wondering if some people could comment on their experiences..like what was it like to come out and say u were bi.. any comment would be really appreciated =) x oh and if im not a gold member..does it mean I have like no chance of finding person's email and contacting him? cuz there's some one that i found and want to get to know but ...its seems almost impossible to contact him...so please if anyone could help with this, would be realy great =) thnk u X
n yeh this is me in the pic hah x
Hi im Michael and im 18 years old. I am bi but I'm not open because I am not sure how my parents and friend would react..=S so I was wondering if some people could comment on their experiences..like what was it like to come out and say u were bi.. any comment would be really appreciated =) x oh and if im not a gold member..does it mean I have like no chance of finding person's email and contacting him? cuz there's some one that i found and want to get to know but ...its seems almost impossible to contact him...so please if anyone could help with this, would be realy great =) thnk u X
I'm 28 and just finished coming out. My issue with the closet was that I was trying to hide my bisexuality and being dishonest and deceptive. So my rule is that if it comes up in natural conversation I let the fact come out. If someone asks I answer truthfully.
Having said thus I've found a mixed bag of reactions. One sister nearly turned her 5yr anniversary and her/her fiancee's mutual birthday party into a coming out party for me. My eldest sister loves me but regularly gives me passive/aggressive missionary speeches. My father sounded agitated on the phone but didn't comment other than to say that he wished I wouldn't do anything that might draw negative attention to me or get me hurt. My mother was clearly upset but went on with the conversation. As for friends and coworkers it's been a mixed bag of hugs, propositions, shock, horor, support, condemnation and acceptance and in one instance not caring whatsoever.
My relationship with my parents still hurts, my eldest sister is kind of a pest and it's hell trying to get a date. I've been dumped because "you'll cheat on me with a man because you're bi." I've been jumped for similar presumptions.
Go into it with a positive view of your self and you'll make it. Sometimes it'll hurt, some ppl will be pesky for one reason or another. Sometimes you'll be high on emotions (good or bad) and other times it's like having an extra appendage - it's just there, a part of you and everyday life.
I'm 28 and just finished coming out. My issue with the closet was that I was trying to hide my bisexuality and being dishonest and deceptive. So my rule is that if it comes up in natural conversation I let the fact come out. If someone asks I answer truthfully.
Having said thus I've found a mixed bag of reactions. One sister nearly turned her 5yr anniversary and her/her fiancee's mutual birthday party into a coming out party for me. My eldest sister loves me but regularly gives me passive/aggressive missionary speeches. My father sounded agitated on the phone but didn't comment other than to say that he wished I wouldn't do anything that might draw negative attention to me or get me hurt. My mother was clearly upset but went on with the conversation. As for friends and coworkers it's been a mixed bag of hugs, propositions, shock, horor, support, condemnation and acceptance and in one instance not caring whatsoever.
My relationship with my parents still hurts, my eldest sister is kind of a pest and it's hell trying to get a date. I've been dumped because "you'll cheat on me with a man because you're bi." I've been jumped for similar presumptions.
Go into it with a positive view of your self and you'll make it. Sometimes it'll hurt, some ppl will be pesky for one reason or another. Sometimes you'll be high on emotions (good or bad) and other times it's like having an extra appendage - it's just there, a part of you and everyday life.
Hi. I am 36 and the same as geminigirl have been bi as long as I remember. I don't think I have ever really come out per say as just not held back. For example if I was part of a conversation regarding the attractiveness of an actor/actress I would give my input. It seems that people don't seem to react very strongly one way or the other when you just approach it as a part of who you are rather than a statement or decree. If people had questions they asked and I answered honestly. If they weren't as comfortable they didn't and it was just a comment in passing. I figure I don't have to come out that I like pumpkin pie....or the color green... or mountain biking. I just have conversations and input about those topics because I like them or they get my attention/interest. Lol I like pumpkin pie, the color green, mountain biking, short curvy brunette woman, and rough and tumble men. What more needs to be said. :)
Hi. I am 36 and the same as geminigirl have been bi as long as I remember. I don't think I have ever really come out per say as just not held back. For example if I was part of a conversation regarding the attractiveness of an actor/actress I would give my input. It seems that people don't seem to react very strongly one way or the other when you just approach it as a part of who you are rather than a statement or decree. If people had questions they asked and I answered honestly. If they weren't as comfortable they didn't and it was just a comment in passing. I figure I don't have to come out that I like pumpkin pie....or the color green... or mountain biking. I just have conversations and input about those topics because I like them or they get my attention/interest. Lol I like pumpkin pie, the color green, mountain biking, short curvy brunette woman, and rough and tumble men. What more needs to be said. :)
I am 35 and would say I have been bi as long as I can remember. I used to "borrow" my dad's playboys when I was around 12/13 and remember getting really turned on by the beautiful women in them, which confused me because I was definitely attracted to men(well, boys at that time). I wasn't as young as you when I finally admitted it to myself, but, that's not my point. I don't now, nor have I ever felt the need to be "out". That's the beauty of being bi- best of both worlds. I am happily married with children and can't imagine my kids or family members knowing about what goes on in private in my bedroom. I was upfront with my hubby when we started dating, though as it was only fair to be truthful with the one I was intimate with. Lucky for me, he is into it. Good luck to you!
I am 35 and would say I have been bi as long as I can remember. I used to "borrow" my dad's playboys when I was around 12/13 and remember getting really turned on by the beautiful women in them, which confused me because I was definitely attracted to men(well, boys at that time). I wasn't as young as you when I finally admitted it to myself, but, that's not my point. I don't now, nor have I ever felt the need to be "out". That's the beauty of being bi- best of both worlds. I am happily married with children and can't imagine my kids or family members knowing about what goes on in private in my bedroom. I was upfront with my hubby when we started dating, though as it was only fair to be truthful with the one I was intimate with. Lucky for me, he is into it. Good luck to you!
